There's been a sort of surge for self-love theory, almost a deluge with the evolution of internet and youtube videos.
In a way, it's great to always love yourself to keep away from the negativity or self-harm and feeling isolated. Often times we tend to blame ourselves for a lot of wrongs in life and to be able to love yourself keeps you from feeling like a stigma one wrongly interprets themselves to be, and I'm not talking about that part at all.
This post is about the different sort of loving yourself that is promoted heavily through Instagrams and youtube videos of people either differently abled or those who come in different shapes and sizes.
People who're especially called 'fat' and made fun of (apparently) and who've come out with a vengeance with this message to 'love yourself' no matter what.
Now here's the thing about always loving yourself and being okay with whatever you are and making peace with yourself and the skin you're in and that is it will always keep you from working hard towards your goals if it lets you make goals in the first place that is.
I'm not saying that it keeps you from getting successful, of course not because that has nothing to do with the shape of your body, but say, you're unable to function full well in social settings and are afraid to make certain leaps in your life that keep you from achieving life goals and yet you feel that it's alright, and it's more important to love yourself rather than make that leap towards success, then you need a brain check because you're deluding yourself.
The same thing applies to all facets of life, even if it's as small as making lifestyle changes to get in a better, fitter shape.
I mean this in no bad way, but most women promoting this theory are ones that are morbidly obese and with makeup channels.
They talk about how they've always been called fat and ugly and that now they've made peace with themselves, all the time while shellacking pots of makeup on their face, resulting in a face that looks nothing like their real selves.
One could argue that if you love yourself so much then there's no need to hide behind a kabuki mask of makeup, but then again it could be argued that it's their hobby and helps them feel confident etc., and now my gripe with this.
If only you could lessen with the self-love and begin berating yourself every now and then you could make remarkable changes to yourself.
You don't always have to be encouraged to do something, but sometimes need a bit of self-criticism to help you go that extra step which you otherwise wouldn't in a self-pamper session. And I don't say this just in terms of getting fit, but for almost everything you try to do with your life.
It's okay to be lazy, but never alright to give up, because that is defeating yourself.
Instead of telling yourself that it's okay to give up, you need to find a way to slap that thought, rebuke your idiotic thinking and carry one with whatever it is that you were /are doing.
Self-love is fine as long as you're taking out time to blister your vanity and break the thin walls of excuses you've built around yourself.
In a way, it's great to always love yourself to keep away from the negativity or self-harm and feeling isolated. Often times we tend to blame ourselves for a lot of wrongs in life and to be able to love yourself keeps you from feeling like a stigma one wrongly interprets themselves to be, and I'm not talking about that part at all.
This post is about the different sort of loving yourself that is promoted heavily through Instagrams and youtube videos of people either differently abled or those who come in different shapes and sizes.
People who're especially called 'fat' and made fun of (apparently) and who've come out with a vengeance with this message to 'love yourself' no matter what.
Now here's the thing about always loving yourself and being okay with whatever you are and making peace with yourself and the skin you're in and that is it will always keep you from working hard towards your goals if it lets you make goals in the first place that is.
I'm not saying that it keeps you from getting successful, of course not because that has nothing to do with the shape of your body, but say, you're unable to function full well in social settings and are afraid to make certain leaps in your life that keep you from achieving life goals and yet you feel that it's alright, and it's more important to love yourself rather than make that leap towards success, then you need a brain check because you're deluding yourself.
The same thing applies to all facets of life, even if it's as small as making lifestyle changes to get in a better, fitter shape.
I mean this in no bad way, but most women promoting this theory are ones that are morbidly obese and with makeup channels.
They talk about how they've always been called fat and ugly and that now they've made peace with themselves, all the time while shellacking pots of makeup on their face, resulting in a face that looks nothing like their real selves.
One could argue that if you love yourself so much then there's no need to hide behind a kabuki mask of makeup, but then again it could be argued that it's their hobby and helps them feel confident etc., and now my gripe with this.
If only you could lessen with the self-love and begin berating yourself every now and then you could make remarkable changes to yourself.
You don't always have to be encouraged to do something, but sometimes need a bit of self-criticism to help you go that extra step which you otherwise wouldn't in a self-pamper session. And I don't say this just in terms of getting fit, but for almost everything you try to do with your life.
It's okay to be lazy, but never alright to give up, because that is defeating yourself.
Instead of telling yourself that it's okay to give up, you need to find a way to slap that thought, rebuke your idiotic thinking and carry one with whatever it is that you were /are doing.
Self-love is fine as long as you're taking out time to blister your vanity and break the thin walls of excuses you've built around yourself.
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