I have a friend.
Not a dear friend but certainly a friend and we share a common passion for food, grocery shopping, animals as well as massage and so based on common interests we get along rather well and keep our lives restricted to just that, taking care not to cross over into another realm of closeness because neither of us expects that from each other .
She comes over often for tea and talks and from what I have gathered is quite the social bee and bit of a gossip which I don't mind at all because it's always fun to stay updated about things and social agenda's and stuff happening around you.
Why this post?
Well, I have noticed in the last two years of our budding friendship that she hardly ever invites me to her house which is exactly 100 meters away from mine and in fact on occasions that I have taken some homemade cakes and breads to share with her she always intercepts and receives me outside not once letting me inside, except that one time she wanted to learn to make 'curry'.
Her house is well, her house I guess .
Messy and what not but how do I care and is that the only reason she won't invite me inside?
Not like I'm a vampire.
So here's the thing.
Yesterday I was out and thought of delivering to her house a few things I'd brought for her from home land. Like dried apricots, sweets and snacks which I know she loves and so I sent her a message mentioning that I'd be popping over.
A prompt reply told me not to because of a very vague reason that she hadn't slept well .
Alright.
I sent her a message today asking her if she was free to which she didn't reply for the longest time and a moment ago sent me a message saying that she'd come to visit me and have tea.
Alright!
So the reason I think she didn't reply was because she was afraid that I might come over, which I wouldn't because I'm hardly the one to intrude but she on numerous occasions pops over for hours an end and ends up spending most of her lunch time with me, talking about banal stuff and what not and I wonder if she doesn't have to go home and cook because there I am standing in my workout clothes, sweating, about to go for a shower and there she is asking for tea and making conversations.
She's almost 2 decades over me and so I respect her in a way as to not offend her and let small things like this pass, even though I do think of why she never lets me come inside her house .
And in fact I've realized that it's her always paying others a visit and never ever inviting anyone over .
This is most curious .
Why this long post?
While I was back home and my cats were alone being taken care by some extraordinary people who are actually some of my closest friends here there was a day when said friends informed me that they would get a couple hours Kate to visit my cats and feed them.
Fine, I told them. Not an issue, I can ask someone else to check in my cats.
A couple hours won't be a higher but cats get used to a particular time and adjust their body clocks and my little kitten would surely get hassled and so I asked this friend regarding whom this ousts gets typed to check on my cat.
I told her specifically because she had on numerous occasions volunteered to care for my cat in my absence and so keeping that in mind I asked her if she could pop over to my house and feed the cats and just generally spend five minutes with them because they also need company.
She replied with a prompt 'sure' and an hour later with a 'sorry' because she was afraid that she might open the door and the cats might run outside and thusly she wrote she won't be able to check on the felines because she was afraid they might run away .
What on earth?
She has two cats herself and knows enough about them to know that they won't be boarding a plane and flying off .
The most they would do is run out and it's easy to bring them back, that is if they ever run out and one is an outdoor cat, so no problem if he runs out and the other is a kitten who is too scared to step out on the road, so why the apprehension??
Moreover the building has an entrance door which can be shut ensuring no one goes outside.
I didn't understand the logic or the excuse and so replied with a 'no problem' and a smiley because a while later my friends who were running late that day came over and spent the entire day with my cats, feeding, playing and cleaning them.
This was a small incident but enough to tell me to not trust that person within a breath of oxygen, her insincerity and lack of concern didn't go unnoticed and today I am sure to talk of it and distance myself restricting our friendship to acquaintanceship because I didn't like what she did.
I mean I'd often help her rescue animals and take them to the vet and what not and almost always when she needed my help my presence was immediate but once!! Once I asked her for a small favour which I'm sure pales in comparison to giving a roadside mutt a medicinal bath on her request, and she made an idiotic excuse.
Unforgivable!
I just wanted to talk to someone about it.
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